Parenting is not easy, but when you are responsible for raising a difficult child it can be even more challenging. It is particularly taxing to raise a child who is constantly throwing tantrums because in many cases, talking is just not enough.
Children who are often considered difficult are generally very perceptive and are more likely to be emotional and easily offended. As a result, they will probably respond explosively when bothered. They tend to be more assertive and will express their feelings usually without any kind of reservation. This can be really bewildering for some parents and adults who sometimes do not know what to do in these situations.
However, parents should guide their children into exhibiting appropriate behavior and be patient in doing so. Your objective should be to teach your child to be well-adjusted, and not to change his/her personality and/or temperament.
Tips To Parent A Difficult Child
The following are some factors parents with difficult children should consider:
1. Due Diligence
A child's temperament is largely dependent on genetic encoding and the environment in which the child is raised. Having an understanding of mannerisms and personality development will help you to appropriately deal with difficult situations. It is also a good idea to for you to get an idea of your own temperament.
2. Positive Reinforcement
Be sure to constantly praise your child for good behavior, as stern rebukes and constant chiding will send the wrong message. Your child will interpret this to mean that he or she is not a good child and this will further worsen the situation.
3. Role Play
Children 3 years and above generally respond very well to role playing. Parents should take advantage of this because this can be used as a tool for modeling appropriate behavior. It will be particularly beneficial if you assume the role of one of your child's favorite storytime characters.
Give your child the opportunity to choose. Children who are inclined to strongly assert themselves will generally not respond positively to being told an outright no, but will respond better to being given choices. Be sure not to overturn the choices made by your child and do not make fun of their preferences and never try to influence their choices.
5. Engage Your Child
Be sure to keep your child informed at all times. Whenever there is a prospective change in routine, inform your child ahead of time so that he/she will be comfortable and not be caught off guard.
6. Don't Waiver
Be consistent in maintaining discipline. It is also important to keep your daily activities simple and well structured.
7. Pay Attention
Be aware of your environment and if your child gets hypersensitive be sure to take him/her out of that area. Always give your child a break whenever he/she gets too cranky.
8. Find the Triggers
Pay close attention to your child because if you do, you will be able to identify what makes him/her overly sensitive.
9. Give Yourself a Break
Take some time off. A frustrated parent will find it even more difficult to deal with a child who is throwing a tantrum. So take a break every now and then in order to be more successful at dealing with a difficult child. Remember to take care of your own needs by eating well, losing weight, seeing a therapist, taking nutritional supplements or exercising. When you feel physically and mentally well, you will be able to take on any challenge that comes your way!